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Tuesday, September 30, 2014

The Monica Thing

Last night, I was watching an episode of Friends, and I'm at the point in the series where Chandler and Monica are engaged and planning their wedding.  As is typical with Phoebe, she's in a new relationship and is all. over. the guy.  They're stealing kisses in the corner of Central Perk and are all caught up in the "I miss you more" contest.  

And then Monica realizes it.

She's never going to have that again.

Because Monica and Chandler are in a steady relationship heading toward marriage, she knows and recognizes for the first time that she will never kiss another guy or have those mushy gushy butterfly feelings from the beginning of a new relationship.  She and Chandler are comfortable, things are no longer a novelty.  And that really freaks her out.

To be honest, I can't for the life of me figure out why in the world that would be disappointing for Monica.  It certainly wasn't for me!

Walker and I met when we were 19 years old and had been together for close to four years when we were married at age 22.  Yes, we were young.  But to be completely honest, I wouldn't have it any other way.

In my marriage, I am accepted.  I do not have to pretend to be or like anyone or anything in order to impress my husband (ie. be the "cool girl", if you've read Gone Girl).  He knows who I am and is 100% in love with that person.  I don't have to be put together all the time, with perfect hair and makeup.  He loves me in my PJ's as much as the next thing.

In my marriage, I am free.  I found that there's an immense amount of joy that comes with the freedom in a committed relationship.  Sure, I won't kiss or sleep with any more guys in my lifetime, but it's really great to know that I have so many more years to explore life with my husband.  

In my marriage, I am cherished.  I don't need those early relationship-smitten butterflies.  I have someone who will love me and be committed to me once those feelings fade.  He made a vow to spend the rest of his life with me.

In the early days, one of my favorite parts about going to Virginia to see Walker's family was the moment that I would turn onto their street after more than three hours of driving.  My heart would leap into my throat and start pounding in anticipation of getting to spend time with my boyfriend, or later, my fiance.  Now, I don't have those feelings as I make that turn.  Don't get me wrong - I am always thrilled to be there, but it's not the same type of excitement.  Yet as I steer the car onto the gravel leading up to their house as my GPS tells me I have reached my destination, I am hit with the fact that I don't need that anticipation anymore.  My husband is already with me.  He's sitting beside me and I have the joy of spending all my days with him.  And the best part?  I know that he will be by my side as I leave that place a few days later.

I love my marriage because it has transcended Monica's fears.  Sure, those basic "firsts" are now obsolete, but there are plenty of other exciting ones to have in the future. 

Monday, September 29, 2014

Shopping, Paintball, and Brunches, Oh My!

Happy Monday, friends!

Ahhh.  It was a good weekend.

We've had 80+ degree temperatures these last few days, and I couldn't have been happier about it.  There's plenty of time for boots and scarves...I want to soak in as much warm weather as I possibly can.  

My mom and I went shopping on Saturday as a belated birthday present, and we had a blast.  I got a new pair of boots in a grayish taupe-y shade, and an outfit (plus another pair of pants!) from White House Black Market.  I love going out with her because it forces me to go out of my comfort zone.  It's fun to get pieces that I wouldn't ordinarily buy.

People always say we look alike - do you think so??

As we were sitting in Chick Fil A during lunch, I looked down and realized that I had mixed metals that day.  I'm guessing that's considered fine from a fashion standpoint.  I mean, just because my rings are white gold doesn't mean I can never wear anything else, right?  

Making a giant mess in Payless.

While we were out having fun, Walker played paintball with the youth group kids, which he absolutely loved.  It was actually his first time playing, and judging by the large welts that cover him from head to toe, it was a good day.  I'm not sure how shooting at each other demonstrates God's love, but I went with it.  

That evening, we had my favorite summer meal (corn fritters!) for dinner before heading to church.  Yum!

On Sunday, Walker suggested that we frequent our favorite brunch place (Turning Point).  We've tried to go there a few times recently, but the wait is just so darn long!  This time, we showed up around 11:10 and were totally fine putzing around nearby shops until we were finally called at noon.

And clearly, my husband wins at life, because yet again, he came grocery shopping with me and the entire process took about 10 minutes.  Seriously, split the store down the middle and each take a half.  You won't regret it, especially on a busy Sunday!

Our cart -- mostly healthy except for the ice cream!!  That Turkey Hill Deep Dark Chocolate next to the peanut butter is to die for!  SO good!

What were you up to this weekend?

Friday, September 26, 2014

Friday Favorites

Happy Friday!  Just a quick poll for you guys -- do your schools give the students & teachers days off for Jewish holidays?  Here in the land of Jersey, we are off for Rosh Hashanah (which was yesterday) and Yom Kippur, but I've realized that none of my teacher friends elsewhere had the day to themselves.  

Anyway, now that's it's the end of the week, it's time to recap the past few days:

1 // Obviously, as stated above, we were off of school yesterday!  It was cold and rainy, which meant that Walker also did not have to work, so that turned into a day of pajamas and coziness.  Who wants to go out and be productive when it's yucky outside?

2 // In the spirit of comfort and fall weather, I made a delicious turkey and sweet potato shepherd's pie.  At 250 calories per (absolutely delicious) serving, you can't go wrong.  Seriously...try this ASAP.

3 // My family had a great time celebrating recovery on Sunday as we made the trek down to Maryland to volunteer at a rehab center.  Plus, we had tons of soft pretzels left over which the teachers at my school LOVED!

4 // Yesterday, Walker and I watched the Friends episode when Chandler proposes to Monica.  I just about lost it - the whole scene was so sweet!  Waaay more romantic than any proposal I've ever seen on TV. 

5 // I read Divergent recently.  Honestly, I can't say I loved it, but I'm glad to at least understand the references that people make now.  I think I'm going to have to watch the movie, too, though I can't stand Shailene Woodley.

How was your week?
Any fun plans for the weekend?